This is a book just out that I just finished reading and needed to blog about. I’ve read many books about people living at or below the poverty line, subsisting on tips or minimum wage when they had a job. I’ve never read one written by such a person and its author, Linda Tirado, is such a person and she is a very good writer who describes life on the economic margins with biting wit and a lot of insight. I am not a celebrity who lives a cloistered life. I’ve marched in picket lines and spoken at rallies alongside poor people. I’ve slept on the floors of many a working class family I was organizing with or when I was researching films like “The Dollmaker” and “Nine to Five” (of course that was back when my joints and bones were more forgiving.) But I learned a lot from Tirado’s book, stuff rich people need to know; stuff that conservative, anti-food-stamps and TANF types need to know. Really. I’m writing this blog in the hopes that it will motivate you to read it — especially people of the latter ilk.
I’ve been interested in the whole issue of restaurant workers who live on tips and how incredibly hard their lives are. I’ve heard women speak who work with the Restaurant Opportunity Center which addresses issues of wages and sexual harassment (from customers as well as employers) which waitresses endure–women who live so hand-to-mouth they dare not complain for fear of losing their jobs. I follow the amazing successes of the Los Angeles Alliance for a New Economy (LAANE). As “Modern Family” actor Ed O’Neill recently said at a LAANE dinner, “Any group that can raise wages for tens of thousands of hotel workers and truck drivers and airport workers is doing something right.” I pay attention to these things. But I realized reading “Hand to Mouth” how much I didn’t know, hadn’t even thought of.
Below are a few among the many passages worth repeating from the book:
“If you feel that something must be done before the villagers find their pitchforks, here is what you can do: Stop being a dick to service workers whenever possible. Start filling out those stupid surveys when someone’s done their job well, because they really do make us get a quota of them. Stop pretending you’re doing us a favor or performing some high moral duty by refusing to tip. And start admitting that you need us as much as we need you.”
“Next time you see someone [she’s talking here about waitresses] being “sullen” or “rude”, try being nice to them. It’s likely you’ll be the first person to do so in hours. Alternatively, ask them an intelligent question. I used to come alive when someone legitimately wanted to know what I’d recommend”
“During World War II, we had government-sponsored day care facilities. It was generally acknowledged that single-parent households, which the families left behind by the soldiers were, needed extra support. Maybe, and this is just a thought, we could do that again. Child-care crisis solved. Plus it’s another jobs program.”
“I do not see a difference, the way some people do, in the federal money. Whether you are getting your benefits in the form of SNAP cards or deductions, it’s the same thing….The one difference? Rich people get way more from the government than poor people do—see above-mentioned mortgage interest, capital gains, light inheritance tax, retirement savings breaks, subsidies—but the poor are the only ones getting shamed for it.”
Plus, Barbara Ehrenreich wrote the Foreword.

Erica
The difference between rich and poor is a tenuous one. I’ve worked hard all my life but it has been a rich one…mostly one rich in laughter, loving what I do despite having to worry about where the next paycheck will be best used. I have friends on both sides of the spectrum…who is happier? I think when one respects him or herself and tries to make others equals, there is a leveling of economic difference. I was fortunate enough to have been able to trek the Himalayas and one thing that hit me hard was that through extreme poverty and living hand to mouth, the Sherpas I stayed with didn’t distinguish between yours and mine…everything was “ours”. Perhaps if we Americans uses “our” more often…
Kudos to you, Jane, for all your accomplishments, your finding peace with who you were and are and for the paying it forward. I had the great fortune to be called, “my good friend, Erica” by your dad many years ago after I was given the “job” as his guide around a small Midwestern town when he was performing with Andre Previn. He loved you so very much and was such a gentleman!
Lisa
Hello Jane. Thanks for this review – sounds like an important book. Anything endorsed by both Barbara Ehrenreich and yourself has gotta be worth picking up!
While I am here, just want to say that I have been a great fan of your films since I saw Cat Ballou at age 7. You have also been an inspiration in terms of my politics and feminism. I just recently read your autobiography – a great read! So thoughtful, analytical, funny, and psychologically astute.
Finally – how awesome to see you back on the big and small screens – you are one of the greats!
With respect!
Lisa
Eochaidh MacDhalaigh OghaChruithne
It’s OK to hate your job.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikm4ZmN-3vQ&index=14&list=PLE9AEC27D062FB677
SusanK
I downloaded a copy onto my iPad. I will read it. Thank you.
Linda Belmont
I just ordered it. Thank you for the recommendation.
Daniel Murray
I’ve often told a friend and/or an acquaintance that is unsure about someone new in their life to watch how they treat waiters and waitresses because sooner or later that’s how they are going to treat you.
In with this, I’m so stunned about the cutting of so many much-needed programs to help our fellow citizens. And, we’ve all needed a helping hand, now and again, in life.
Marilyn
I’ve been meaning to read this; I appreciate this post because it’s reminded me to get the book. Many, many people—far too many—are living paycheck to paycheck and are one medical emergency or major car repair (if they have a car) from disaster. A very few are doing well, the rest get by are or drowning. This ultimately serves no one.
Forty years of income inequality in America in graphs:
http://www.npr.org/blogs/money/2014/10/02/349863761/40-years-of-income-inequality-in-america-in-graphs
Karyn
I survive off of $733 per month ( I used to raise 2 disabled girls), I have lost my car; because I couldn’t afford the payments, my rent is $682, one of the girls passed away in February hence only $733 per month. Through my life I have always worked doing hair or secretarial work. Raising the 2 girls both of which are too old for daycare, leaves a BIG hole. In 2009 I spoke to congress on the need for safe and affordable daycare for the State of Montana. There are so many things wrong with our government, thinking about it really scares me. I have never understood the govt. taking away benefits if you make money. Or why food that is good for you is more expensive than crappy processed foods. Or why the subsidized apartments don’t have food gardens available to residents to work at and use. I just really don’t see a way out of it.